I just found out that someone I know is on their last dollar and they’re going to be homeless soon.
And as a speaker, you need to listen very closely to what I’m about to say because it’s in direct relation to how much you make as a speaker. Time and time again, people who make this mistake always go broke.
I’m not going to bother you with the story. Lets just say that this person moved out to California and was trying to grow his business but it didn’t work out that way.
Little by little, he was draining his bank account. Not on ‘stupid’ stuff…just on normal things like rent, food, etc. He couldn’t bring people into his business so the money that was in his bank account was slowly dwindling to zero.
And yesterday I heard the news….
He doesn’t have enough money to pay rent. No money for food. No nothing.
But here’s the crazy part, he never told me. I had to hear about it from someone else.
Not once did he ask me for help. And not once did he ask if I can loan him money.
Here’s the thing…
…When you need help. ASK!!!!!
Put your ego away, stop acting like you’re a somebody…and ASK FOR HELP.
If you don’t, you will go broke, and by the time you ask for help, it will be too late.
People who don’t ask for help have ego problems. They think they have to keep up their ‘image’ to the world and in reality, nobody pays attention to them as much as they think.
It’s similar to the quote:
“When you’re 20, you care what everyone thinks. When you’re 40, you stop caring what everyone thinks. When you’re 60, you realize no one was thinking about you in the first place.”
And it’s true.
Stop caring about what others think about you…because nobody is thinking about you.
If you’re in a position where you need help, then suck it up and ask for it. Otherwise, you won’t get help.
It amazes me at how many speakers follow Speaking Lifestyle and don’t ask for help. Whenever I send an email out to offer a free website review, etc…some people respond, but most don’t. Why? Because people would rather keep their ego than ask for help.
I WISH someone would have offered to help me when I was growing my speaking business.
If you’re not making at least 6-figures as a speaker, you need help. ASK FOR IT.
And if you think you don’t have any problems in your speaking business, you’re BSing yourself. When people lie to someone who’s trying to help them, who does it really hurt? It sure as hell doesn’t hurt the person who’s trying to help.
ALL successful people have problems.
Most people start out with money problems (“How do I make more money”)
Then they get a point where they have too much money (“How do I do asset protection? Where should I put my money?”)
Everyone has problems.
If a speaker tells me they don’t have problems then they’re either lying or they’re not doing anything in their life. Speakers who stay stagnant don’t have problems. And speakers with egos will lie about the problems they “don’t” have.
I’m not worried about the person who admits they have a problem. I’m worried about he guy who thinks they don’t.
Someone who admits/knows they have diabetes?
Or someone who doesn’t know they have diabetes?
The person who doesn’t know they have a diabetes problem is worse off because they won’t take the steps to fix the problem. Instead, they could die…all because they didn’t know their ‘problem.’
Never be the guy who’s afraid to admit they have a problem. And never be the guy who’s afraid to ask for help.
When I was in high-school, do you know who asked the most questions in class? It was a guy named Adam. And guess what? He was the valedictorian. Whenever he needed help, he asked. And if you look back at all the ‘smart’ people you know, you’ll notice they ask more questions than regular people because they don’t let their ego get in the way of their success.
Sure, I’ll pay my friend’s rent. But you know what? He STILL hasn’t asked. I just offered.
You have to realize at some point that your ego is getting in the way of growing your speaking business.
People who say, “I know” are the people who don’t do.
There’s no point in acting like you know everything and there’s no point in not asking for help.
Put your ego away if you want to grow.